If you are an artist, when you get stuck, draw bigger and on tracing paper when you are stuck. Consider this manual photoshop. Use scissors, trace, refine.
If you are a writer, when you get stuck, get a pad of paper and at least two colors of pen that contrast. When you get…
I’m so pleased with how that ended
When we talk, we focus on the “content” words — the ones that convey information. But the tiny words that tie our sentences together have a lot to say about power and relationships.
NPR just ran this fun piece about James Pennebaker’s work on pronouns and filler words, and how they signal status and romantic interest. Turns out we can learn a lot from the words we never think about: pronouns like I or you, fillers like “uh” and “um,” and “verbal ticks” like “like.” Word nerds, if you want to read up on the topic, check out these papers:
Clark, H. H. & Fox Tree, Jean E. (2002). Using uh and um in spontaneous speaking. Cognition, 84, 73-111. — “Uh” signals a minor delay in your sentence, whereas “um” signals a more major delay.
Arnold, J. E., Tanenhaus, M. K., Altman, R. J., & Fagnano, M. (2004). The old and thee, uh, new. Psychological Science, 15(9), 578-582. — “Uh” signals that the speaker will probably be referencing something new in their sentence that hasn’t yet been mentioned in that conversation.
Fox Tree, J. E. (2006). Placing like in telling stories. Discourse Studies, 8(6), 749-770. — Using ‘like’ isn’t always vapid! An overview of the different ways ‘like’ is used in speech and what it signals.
Kidd, C., White, K.S., & Aslin, R.N. (2011). Toddlers use speech disfluencies to predict speakers’ referential intentions. Developmental Science, 14(4), 925–934. — Kids use people’s “um”s and “uh”s to learn new words.
The fact that we’re not right for each other here and now does not mean we will never be right for each other again, in any capacity.
In no way does it reduce the incredible quality of all the time when we were so absolutely perfectly insanely right together.
And I’m not wrong for missing those days nights afternoons hours minutes
But I’m learning to miss them from here and now,
instead of living in "remember when…"